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Be a Peacemaker

“Peace can prevail only when that natural inclination to fight is superseded by self-determination to live on a loftier level. Coming unto Jesus Christ as the ‘Prince of Peace’ is the pathway to peace on earth and goodwill among men. He made a promise to us: ‘Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.’ (Matt. 5:9 and 3 Ne.12:9). . . . . As individuals, we should ‘follow after the things which make for peace’ (Romans 14:19). We should be peacemakers. We should live by the Golden Rule (Matt 7:12).”  (Russell M. Nelson, “Blessed Are the Peacemakers,” Ensign, Nov 2002)
Talking things out with the other person is usually the first step--and the best step--to resolving a dispute. (See Matthew 18:15-17.) If both sides will talk face to face, listen, and make a genuine attempt to understand each other's views, it is rare that a dispute is not settled peacefully. Talking things out can be done in private or, if necessary, with an impartial mediator. We urge you to make a genuine attempt to talk things out and understand the other person's views.
Employ the principles of restitution, compensation, and forgiveness, rather than vengeance and punishment. That is the productive way to resolve a conflict. Relationships can be healed and people edified. Whenever you have done a wrong or are partly to blame, be quick to apologize and ask forgiveness.
There are ways to serve justice without resorting to vengeance and punishment. Restitution can make things right by replacing or renewing damaged items. When it is not possible to restore something that has been damaged, compensation is often sought. Compensation could be in the form of money, material aid, or service to the offended person.
On the other hand, seeking punishment and vengeance usually escalates the conflict--positions are polarized, angry emotions intensify, and pride suppresses reason, and long after the conflict could have been resolved, grudges and bitterness may continue.
Although one party in a conflict may not follow the principles "which make for peace," the other party can follow them and can enjoy a spiritually productive outcome and find peace for one’s own soul.
Let us therefore follow the "Prince of Peace" (Isaiah 9:6) rather than the "father of contention." (3 Ne. 11:29-30)
“Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another.”  (Romans 14:19)